"HAI DAIR" video removed
it seems that mowry managed to get the "HAI DAIR" video pulled from Break.com. does anyone have it mirrored? it's pretty important to the article. -hipcrime 23:16, 30 June 2012 (EDT)
- the video can be found here for now. download and keep a copy on hand just in case. :) -hipcrime 16:25, 6 July 2012 (EDT)
Analysis/Advice (and a story)
He likes this. I mean, making a victim out of himself, crying, being hurt. I actually was this way myself for a few years growing up, mostly in junior high and freshmen year. Not to ~this~ degree of course, but I frequently put myself into situations where I was picked on, ostracized and otherwise made fun of, sometimes physically attacked. I would just take it though, cry, make a big fuss, victim role all the way. Some people would then of course pity me, feel sorry for me, give me hugs, be really kind/caring. Unlike most of those that do it, I was consciously aware of the fact that I was doing it...and why. Mostly cause at home there was no real familial love and affection, no one really cared about me, no one took the bother to be real nice. I was always expected to be "grown up" to take the brunt of any and all hardship...largely because my older brother was an uber sensitive little cuppycake who always needed constant attention and my little sister was the "baby" of the family and the youngest, so of course she got plenty of love and affection. "Middle Child Syndrome" as they say, I was pretty well a text book case...to the extreme when you factor in all the abuse...both physical and verbal.
So that's the reason I would do it...I wanted attention, love, affection, someone, anyone who might care. Crying and playing the "victim" role is pretty well the quickest way to get that. Eventually though I became more self-actualized and learned to meet my emotional needs in a different way, largely through constructive fantasy and meditation, I found I could easily blur the line between real reality and fantasy quite easily...mostly cause I had basically been doing it since toddler-hood (I just didn't really realize it). While most kids grow up with imaginary friends I grew up with imaginary mommy and daddy figures, largely based on what I'd see on television and movies. Fiction wound up becoming more real than anything I was getting in real reality. That was the basis of my meditation and the tool I used to get over that lil hump in 'ol Maslow's Hierarchy. Errr...well, I guess also getting a girlfriend and making friends with a bunch of people also helped, but it was mostly the meditation I think.
As such, one day I just suddenly decided to...stop. To stop being a little bitch, to stop being picked on, to stop crying, to stop being a victim. One day in class when the teacher was out of the room this one kid decided he wanted to try and rile me up...and I just suddenly out of the blue told him to shut the fuck up and then went off on a verbal tirade of invective nastiness. After class he decided to try and take it to the next level and tried punching me in the arm as we were walking down the hall...so I punched him back...a *LOT* harder...and then told him that if he ever touched me again I would break every last bone in his miserable little human body and then drag him down the street...screaming. He uh...he never did try and touch me again after that. And I then went on to further my position as verbal bad ass who wasn't going to take any shit. And in doing so an ~amazing~ thing happened...suddenly most everyone liked me! Yeah, strangest thing, see people actually gravitate towards self-confidence, lack of fear and an outgoing personality. Suddenly people who once hated and picked on me became NICE to me, they respected me, respected that I wasn't going to be a little bitch any longer and I became apart of the "inner circle" so to speak.
The moral to my little story is that *YOU* are always the one in control. It is *YOU* that has to decide whether you want to be a "victim" or whether you wanna man the fuck up and stop taking shit. Most of it is about attitude, you need to stop worrying about what others think of you and start worrying about what *YOU* think of *YOURSELF*. If you learn to love who you are, then the opinions and attacks of others really no longer hold any meaning at all. They become completely inconsequential. Knowing that every last one of them, every single last person on the PLANET, will all be DEAD in about 100 years...and when they're all dead and gone not a *SINGLE* person in existence is ever going to remember the majority of them for *ANYTHING* least of all whatever small minded, backwards little NONpinions they had about you and your life.
Be your own man, love what you have, love who you are and don't give a fuck about the impotent opinions of anyone but yourself. In other words...MAN THE FUCK UP!
"in a nutshell"
someone added a section called "in a nutshell", and has embedded a 2 or 3 minute video. the short version is that he put up a fake bullying video for youtube money, but that's what the point of the article is. the sound is crap, the conclusion is the same as the article's, something something video games and i just don't get it. what am i missing here? -hipcrime 16:21, 5 July 2014 (EDT)
- i went ahead and removed it. revert iif desired. -hipcrime 00:02, 9 July 2014 (EDT)